Definitely, yes. Absolutely, yes. Unquestionably, yes! A back up plan is an essential detail to think about when planning your wedding.
No, I’m not talking about the pact you make with the boy or girl next door when you are twelve, to get married if you are both still single by the time you’re thirty. (Hopefully, if you are reading this then you have met the person of your dreams, so that is covered.)
Rather, I am urging all you loved-up couples to consider what you will do if the day of your wedding dawns, and the weather is less than ideal. Will you:
a) cry (don’t want to ruin your makeup girls),
b) throw a tantrum (can be a good stress reliever but can also earn you the title of Bridezilla),
c) shake your fists and curse at the heavens above (doesn’t usually help much),
or will you
d) shrug, laugh at the irony and move on to Plan B?
If you said (d) then I applaud you. You have obviously already given your backup plan a bit of thought. However, if you answered (a), (b) or (c) please keep reading. Because while crying, stomping your foot and cursing are all viable options, they really won’t help you on your big day, especially when it comes to the weather – the one thing that none of us can control!
When it comes to writing your own vows, it can be daunting knowing where to start. It’s one thing to pour your heart out on paper, but you are going to be speaking those same thoughts out in front of all of your family and friends, and that isn’t always easy.
Many couples I have worked with (no, not just the grooms) feel that they don’t want their vows to seem too mushy or soppy, and so they hold back from including anything too personal. But in my experience, guests are delighted with mushy and sentimental vows, particularly if the couple aren’t usually overly romantic in public. After all, if you can’t be mushy on your wedding day, when can you?!?
And let’s not forget, your wedding day is about the two of you and the commitment you are making to each other. Your guests are merely on hand to witness your happiness.
CHILDREN AT YOUR WEDDING – YES OR NO?
One of the most stressful decisions to make regarding a wedding can be whether or not to invite children. For some, it is only natural to include them, believing that a wedding is a time to celebrate families. Others feel the event should be an adults-only affair.
There is no right or wrong.
Your wedding is about you and you should be able to celebrate it however you please.
The style of your wedding may influence the decision. If you are having an afternoon garden party or a casual backyard wedding, children have an opportunity to run around and are less likely to be irritable. However, it is unfair to expect young children to sit through hours of a formal evening affair. Depending on the style of wedding, you could decide to allow parents to bring their children to the ceremony, but not the reception – or vice versa.
Once the excitement of your engagement dies down, the fun of planning your wedding day begins. There are so many decisions to make – the venue, the flowers, the photographer and, of course, the dress. But when it comes to the ceremony itself, it can be difficult to know where to begin.
If I was to give one piece of advice to wedding couples about their wedding dance it would be to prepare well in advance. So many couples leave dance lessons until a week or two before the wedding, not realizing how much is involved in learning to dance together.